FAQ: Remembering What We Learn

Mother and son working on math homework

“When we do our daily lessons, my son does great. Everything seems to click. But when he sees the same topic later, in a review or on a test, it’s like he’s never heard of it before. How can I help him pull math up from the dregs of lost memory?”

This is a common problem, and there’s no easy answer.

You see, it’s easy for humans to convince ourselves we understand something when someone else explains it. It seems to make sense, but it doesn’t stick in our minds.

If you think of times when you’ve tried to learn something new, you can probably remember the feeling—you thought you had it, but then when you tried to do it yourself, your mind went blank.

So how can we help our kids when they can’t remember what to do?

Explanations Are Easily Forgotten

One thing that can help is to NOT explain the lesson. Just start with a problem, and ask how your son would think about it. What would he try?

For example, if you are working on times-8 strategies, how would he try to figure out 6 × 8? What does he remember that would help him? Where would he start?

Then you can build on his answer.

If he figured it out, then can he think of another way to do it? There is always more than one way to do anything in math. So, if he solved it by counting 8’s, what’s another way? What if he wasn’t allowed to count? Could he figure it out using any math facts he knows?

Talking about how he reasons things through will help it stick in memory.

Posing His Own Problems

Or if he couldn’t figure it out, then let him name a problem he can do.

Perhaps 6 × 8 is beyond him, but he does know 6 × 2. Then work from there. If two 6s are 12, then how much would four 6s be? And if four of them are 24, then how many would double-4 of them be?

And then once he’s got that answer, can he think of another problem that will help to fix it in his mind? Maybe from knowing 6 × 8, can he figure out what 6 × 9 would be?

Or let him pose a problem for you to solve.

Maybe he gives you 16 × 8. How would you think about that? Talk about your reasoning. Perhaps you already know that 8 × 8 = 64, so 16 eights would be twice that much. Or you used some other way of thinking.

Going Deeper

Push the idea of multiplication beyond what the book has in mind.

  • How about fractions? If he knows what 1 × 8 is, can he use that to figure out what 1/2 times 8 would be?
  • Or −1 times 8?
  • Or if he knows what 3 × 8 is, can he use that to figure out 300 × 8? Or something harder, like 33 × 8?

The idea is to start from where he is and push him to think as deeply as he can.

When we ask a student to listen to our explanation and follow our instructions, we are asking them to think our thoughts. But thinking someone else’s thoughts is boring.

What we want is to have kids who think their own thoughts about the topic at hand. Because thinking their own thoughts is fun and leads to more learning.

 
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Mental Math: Advanced Division

Father and daughter working mental math

The farther we go in math, the more division disappears. It ceases to exist as a separate concept.

Instead, we learn to see division as:

  • an inverse multiplication
  • a fraction (ratio)
  • a proportional relationship

Each of these perspectives offers us a new way to think about and make sense of our calculations.

Continue reading Mental Math: Advanced Division

Mental Math: Advanced Multiplication, Part 2

Father and son celebrate a mental math answer

The methods in last week’s Advanced Multiplication post only work for certain numbers, but we have another, more powerful multiplication tool: We can always use a ratio table to make sense of any multiplication.

Ratios are the beginning of proportional thinking. We can systematically alter the numbers in a ratio to reach any quantity required by our problem.

Students begin working with ratios in story problems that help them visualize and make sense of a proportional relationship.

Continue reading Mental Math: Advanced Multiplication, Part 2

Mental Math: Advanced Multiplication, Part 1

Mother and daughter working mental math together

Mental math is the key to algebra because the same principles underlie them both.

As our children learn to do calculations in their heads, they make sense of how numbers work together and build a strong foundation of understanding.

Remember that while mental math is always done WITH the mind, reasoning our way to the answer, it doesn’t have to be only IN the mind. Make sure your students have scratch paper or a whiteboard handy to jot down intermediate steps as needed.

Besides, math is always more fun when kids get to use colorful markers on a whiteboard.

Continue reading Mental Math: Advanced Multiplication, Part 1

Musings: Math is Communication

Young boy writing math expressions

The question came up on a homeschool math forum:

“My first grader and I were playing with equivalent expressions. We were trying to see how many ways we could write the value ‘3.’

    “He wrote down 10 – 2 × 3 + 1.

      “When I tried to explain the problem with his calculation, he got frustrated and didn’t want to do math.

        “How can I help him understand order of operations?”

        [If you think this sounds like too complex of a math expression for a first grader, you may want to read my blog post about math manipulatives and big ideas.]

        Order of operations doesn’t matter in this instance. What matters is communication.

        The mother didn’t know how to read what her son wrote.

        He could help her understand by putting parentheses around the part he wanted her to read first.

        He doesn’t need to know abstract rules for arbitrary calculations, or all the different ways we might possibly misunderstand each other. He just needs to know how to say what is in his mind.

        Continue reading Musings: Math is Communication

        FAQ: The Value of Math Rebellion

        Math Rebels fight for truth, justice, and creative reasoning

        I’ve been getting questions about my Math Journaling Adventures books:

        “I’m so excited to try math journaling! We bought your Logbook Alpha, and my 11-year-old math-averse son is trying to be a math rebel at every turn.

          “But I feel uncomfortable with the idea of rebellion. Doesn’t he need to learn how to solve math problems the right way?”

          One of my favorite things about math is that there really is no “right” way to solve math problems.

          As I pointed out in my ongoing Mental Math series, even a problem as basic as 6+8 can be approached from many directions. So perhaps I should say, the “right” way is however the student wants to make sense of the problem.

          In math, sense-making and reasoning are always the most important things.

          Continue reading FAQ: The Value of Math Rebellion

          Mental Math: Do’s and Don’ts

          Father and son working on math homework

          Over the course of this series, we’ve seen how mental math relies on a child’s own creative ways of thinking. In mental math, children develop understanding of how numbers interact with each other in many ways.

          In this way, they learn the true 3R’s of math: to Recognize and Reason about the Relationships between numbers.

          And the principles that underlie mental calculation are also fundamental to algebra, so that flexibility and confidence in mental math is one of the best predictors of success in high school math and beyond.

          But as we went through the various example problems, did you find the written-out calculations hard to follow?

          Don’t force your children to write down their mental math. It looks dreary when I write the calculations out step by step, but that’s not how it works in a child’s mind. With regular practice, this sort of thinking becomes second nature.

          Continue reading Mental Math: Do’s and Don’ts

          FAQ: Playful Math Journaling

          Girl student thinking about her math journal prompt

          Ever since the school year started, I’ve been getting questions about how to use my new Math Journaling Adventures logbooks.

          [SIDE NOTE: These logbooks are included in this month’s Thanksgiving Sale! You’ll get an automatic 10% discount off all print books, applied at checkout, no special code required.]

          “I love the way your math books get my children thinking.

            “Finally, they are having fun with math!

              “But sometimes I have no idea what the journaling prompt is all about or how to teach it. Where can I buy a solutions manual?”

              Um, that’s not how math journals work.

              The cool thing about journaling prompts is that they have no “right” answer. They are explorations into different parts of the world of math, nature walks in the land of numbers, shapes, and patterns. Springboards into whatever our children want to investigate, whatever sparks their interest.

              A few of the problem-solving prompts may have specific answers, but it really doesn’t matter if our kids find the exact solution a math professional might give. If they write what makes sense to them, they’ve accomplished the goal.

              If later, they think of something they hadn’t noticed, or they want to change their answer — well, that is mathematical thinking, too.

              Continue reading FAQ: Playful Math Journaling

              Mental Math: Advanced Subtraction

              mother and daughter talking about math homework

              As our children grow and develop their math skills, the mental math strategies grow with them.

              The basics of mental math don’t change:

              • Use friendly numbers.
              • Estimate and adjust the answer.

              But we have new ways to help children do math in their heads as the numbers get bigger and the problems more challenging.

              For example, how might kids figure out a multi-digit subtraction like 67 − 38?

              First, we need to adjust our mindset…

              Continue reading Mental Math: Advanced Subtraction

              Geometric Math Art, Recovered

              Geometric pattern by Denise Gaskins

              I’ve been updating my old book files to a new publishing program, and in the process discovering anew how often websites change and disappear. So frustrating!

              Thankfully, the Internet Archive keeps some things that we can look back at. It doesn’t always work, but today it came to the rescue and let me recover the wonderful workbook from the Metropolitan Museum of Art, Islamic Art And Geometric Design, plus some of the pattern pages at the old School of Islamic Geometric Design.

              I reference these pages in my Geometric Coloring Designs series (available at my Playful Math Store), so I was glad to find they weren’t lost forever.

              Math Art = a great way to spark energy when your students hit the mathematical doldrums.

              If you’d like to play around with math art patterns, each image below links to Eric Broug’s step-by-step instructions for creating the design. Also, Broug made printable pages to get students started, which you can download here. No compass construction required!

              Pattern 1

              Geometric design pattern by Eric Broug

              Pattern 2

              Geometric design pattern by Eric Broug

              Pattern 3

              Geometric design pattern by Eric Broug

              There are two more patterns on the old SIGD site, but I can’t get those instructions to load. That might be my antique rural internet connection, however, so feel free to do some exploring on your own.

              And have fun drawing math with your kids!

               
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              “Geometric Math Art, Recovered” copyright © 2025 by Denise Gaskins. Image at the top of the post copyright © Denise Gaskins.