Morning Coffee: When Math Makes You Feel Stupid

Morning Coffee Lifelong Learning for Parents

One of the best ways we can help our children learn mathematics (or anything else) is to be lifelong learners ourselves.

Here are a few stories to read as you sip your morning brew. . .

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This week’s rabbit hole started with a thought-provoking newsletter from Dan Finkel, which led me to his blog…

“Everyone who learns math is familiar with the experience of being stuck on some new idea or problem, banging their head against it, and then, when they finally understand the answer (or having someone tell them), feeling stupid. There’s something fundamental in the nature of mathematics that makes it easy once you get it, and impossible before.

    “These jumps in comprehension can be thrilling, and they’re one reason math is so fun. But they do create a challenge for the student. The evidence that you learned something hard is that you feel like you’re stupid. That stupidity is essential to the process. Students need to know this feeling is the norm when it comes to learning math.”

    —Dan Finkel and Katherine Cook, The centrality of stupidity in mathematics

    Read more about the value of feeling stupid in this second installment of professional development for homeschooling parents.

     
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    Why I Love the Math Journaling Adventures Series

    Mother and daughter doing homework outdoors

    Math Journaling Adventures series by Denise GaskinsMy Math Journaling Adventures Series is now available on Kickstarter.

    I love these books!

    Writing is one of the best ways to learn math deeply, because wrestling our thoughts into words forces us to figure out what we really believe.

    It’s the natural, no-stress way to build our children’s understanding and confidence.

    Hit the button to visit the campaign and order your books:

    Math Journaling Adventures Kickstarter ❯

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    Math Journaling Adventures Launched: Order Your Copy Today

    Math Journaling Adventures: Creative Logbooks for All Ages

    And so it begins: the Math Journaling Adventures is LIVE on Kickstarter!

    Check It Out ❯

    ⭐ Don’t delay! First-day backers get the best deals. Choose one of the Earlybird rewards:

    • Earlybird 2-Logbook Sets in Digital, Paperback, Spiral-Bound, or Hardcover
    • Earlybird Everything Bundles in Digital or Paperback

    To have a successful campaign, we need plenty of people to back the project early. The more supporters we get in these early days, the more likely the Kickstarter platform folks will help spread the news for us.

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    Coming Soon: Math Journaling Adventures

    Math Journaling Adventures Kickstarter

    Coming Soon! On March 3, I’ll be launching the first installment in my new book series, the Math Journaling Adventures.

    You’ll love these books because they make creative math investigations open-and-go for busy parents and teachers.

    And the Kickstarter prelaunch page is now live. That means you can sign up to get an email from Kickstarter as soon as the campaign launches:

    Visit the Prelaunch Page ❯

    If you back the campaign on launch day, you can catch a great deal with the Earlybird discount pledge levels.

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    Morning Coffee: Professional Development for Homeschooling Parents and Other Teachers

    Morning Coffee Lifelong Learning for Parents

    Lately, I’ve spent most of my writing time thinking about the value of narration—the Charlotte Mason approach to teaching by getting kids to put ideas in their own words.

    For students, I’m writing a new series of Math Adventure Journals to get them thinking about math and putting those thoughts into words. If you’re interested, sign up to be notified when the Kickstarter goes live.

    But we parents can harness the value of narration in our own learning. After all, one of the best ways we can help our children learn mathematics (or anything else) is to be lifelong learners ourselves.

    To that end, I’ve decided to relaunch my “Morning Coffee” series of professional development posts for homeschooling parents.

    Here’s How It Works

    As I read articles and follow rabbit trails around the internet, I’ll collect the posts that speak to me. Then I’ll share these in a printable format with journaling pages for your response.

    Since I’m interested in math education, many of the articles I read will be about math—but the principles of learning apply to every subject we teach.

    To kick off the series, let’s start with one of my favorite articles ever…

    Morning Coffee # 1: Learning to Ask Good Questions

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    David Butler’s post Twelve matchsticks: focus or funnel presents an interesting math puzzle. But even better, it opens up a rabbit hole of thought-provoking posts about how to talk with children—or anyone:

      “The approach where you have an idea in your head of how it should be done and you try to get the student to fill in the blanks is called funnelling. It’s actually a rather unpleasant experience as a student to be funnelled by a teacher. You don’t know what the teacher is getting at, and often you feel like there is a key piece of information they are withholding from you, and when it comes, the punchline feels rather flat.”

      The printable file includes links to three more articles as I follow the rabbit around the internet. Enjoy!

       
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      Are you looking for more creative ways to play math with your kids? Check out all my books, printable activities, and cool mathy merch at Denise Gaskins’ Playful Math Store. Or join my email newsletter.

      This blog is reader-supported. If you’d like to help fund the blog on an on-going basis, then please join me on Patreon for mathy inspiration, tips, and an ever-growing archive of printable activities.

      “Morning Coffee: Professional Development for Homeschooling Parents and Other Teachers” copyright © 2025 by Denise Gaskins. Image at the top of post copyright © Kira auf der Heide / Unsplash.

      Why Thinking Thursday?

      Thinking Thursday math journal prompt

      There’s a new math journaling prompt this week.

      Have your kids tried it yet?

      This week’s prompt features one of my favorite quotations to get kids thinking (and writing) about the value of mistakes in learning. Or you might prefer last week’s prompt, featuring a classic math brainteaser and encouraging students to create their own related puzzles.

      Or, if you’re reading this post later and missed those, there’s another great new prompt this week for you to explore.

      Check it out:

      Visit Thinking Thursday

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      Playful Math Carnival #154: The Math Journaling Edition

      Welcome to the 154th edition of the Playful Math Education Blog Carnival — a smorgasbord of delectable tidbits of mathy fun. It’s like a free online magazine devoted to learning, teaching, and playing around with math from preschool to high school.

      Bookmark this post, so you can take your time browsing.

      There’s so much playful math to enjoy!

      By tradition, we start the carnival with a puzzle/activity in honor of our 154th edition. But if you’d rather jump straight to our featured blog posts, click here to see the Table of Contents.

      Try This Puzzle/Activity

      Since 154 is a nonagonal number, I think you might enjoy visiting some of my old “Adventures of Alexandria Jones” posts about figurate numbers:

      And then try this math journaling prompt: Build or draw your own nonagonal numbers — numbers built from 9-sided polygons.

      How many nonagonal numbers can you find? What do you notice? Does it make you wonder?

      Click here for all the mathy goodness!

      How To Respond to Your Child’s Math Writing

      In previous posts, I encouraged parents, homeschoolers, and teachers to explore the world of math and introduced one of my favorite learning tools, the math journal. Then I shared several of my favorite types of journaling prompts to get your kids started writing about math.

      Math journal prompts offer a wide range of options for students to explore. Most of the prompts do not have a “right” or “wrong” answer. Our goal is to root around in some small corner of the world of math, to lift a stone and peek underneath it, just to see what we can find.

      The idea that being good at math means finding the right answers is a huge myth. Of course, many problems in math do have a single right answer. But even for those problems, the answer is not the real math of the problem.

      Math is all about thinking.

      It’s like taking a road trip. You may have a destination, but there are many paths you could take to get there. Different students may take different paths — they may think about the problem in different ways.

      It’s this reasoning that is the real math, and the right answer is just a side effect of reasoning well.

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      It’s Here! Math Journaling for All Ages

      “Denise Gaskins’s work is consistently lovely and playful, so go check it out if you do any journaling or any other sort of mathematical writing with children.”

      —Christopher Danielson, author of Which One Doesn’t Belong?

      It’s finally here! 312 Things To Do with a Math Journal includes number play prompts, games, math art, story problems, mini-essays, geometry investigations, brainteasers, number patterns, research projects, and much more.

      These activities work at any grade level, and most can be enjoyed more than once. It doesn’t matter whether your students are homeschooled or in a classroom, distance-learning, or in person. Everyone can enjoy the experience of playing around with math.

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      5 Ways To Enrich Your Student’s Experience of Math

      In previous posts, I encouraged parents, homeschoolers, and teachers to explore the world of math and introduced one of my favorite learning tools, the math journal.

      But you may be wondering, what can my students do with their journal? How do I find good math prompts?

      Here are five different ways your children can explore math through writing, classified by the type of reasoning involved.

      #1: Game Prompts

      Ask your children to play a number or strategy game and then write about it.

      Game prompts break through the idea that math is dull and boring. They help students develop a positive attitude toward math while practicing their number skills or strategic thinking.

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